#209: "I Refuse to Be Good": Women, Bodies, and the Cost of Compliance with Savala Nolan

Mar 2

What if being “good” was never meant to protect us?

In this powerful conversation, I’m joined by the incredible Savala Nolan (back for the second time) to talk about her new book Good Woman: A Reckoning, which is a lyrical, unflinching exploration of the expectations placed on women’s bodies, voices, marriages, appetites, and lives.

We explore what happens when the bargain of goodness stops “working” and what becomes possible when we refuse it.

Tune in for more on:

The myth that being “good” (thin, quiet, agreeable) will keep women safe
Midlife as rupture: dieting, divorce, and the unraveling of social conditioning
Body liberation as a daily practice — especially in the age of GLP-1s
What it means to become “illegible” to misogynistic culture
Raising daughters who are fluent in their bodies, not afraid of them

This is a conversation about wilderness, refusal, and the kind of freedom that feels both exciting and terrifying because of its importance and truth.

Find Savala on IG: https://www.instagram.com/savalanolan/

Order "Good Woman" here: https://savalanolan.com/

Savala's Substack: https://savala.substack.com/

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